Its sad that some married couples cant bounce back from going through the motions. I was going through a situation and i even asked for a divorce, recently... but because im a fighter, i stopped worrying about what my husband is doing and >>>started worrying about what i'm suppose to be doing a s wife<<<. I had to ask myself, what was i willing to do to keep my marriage, and i also asked myself, is every argument, worth the stress. I did some soul searching and even sought advice from a stranger. Come to find out, i was always making the mistake, of measuring my husband up to my own standards, and getting mad when he fell short. Sure he does things that gets on my last nerves, and i even thought he was cheating... but the root of my problem was that i was being controlling, trying to make my husband do things the way that i wanted them done, and fussing when he didnt do it. I mean, things as simple as communication, was a BIG issue, and while my request seem logical to me, i now realize that i was wrong for trying to "MAKE" him understand my point. I cant control that man. All i can do is control myself, and do what i am suppose to do as a wife. Im pleased to be with him, and he spoils me like crazy....so it was worth the fight. Now, we don't have any problems, because i've stop complain, bickering and nagging at him. He's communicating like i wanted him too, with no problems.
We as women need to also learn how to talk to our man. He isn't our child, our homey, or our verbal punching bag. The husband is the be reverence, and treated as the head of the house hole. too many women hate to hear this, but these are the same women who are going through he11 with their man, and crying their selves to sleep at night, because of relationship issues. REVERENCE YOUR MAN, STOP BACK TALKING HIM, STOP NAGGING AT HIM, STOP HAVING AN ATTITUDE WITH HIM, AND STOP BUCKING UP TO HIM AND JUMPING IN HIS FACE TRYING TO FIGHT HIM. Learn what submission means and implement that into your relationship, and what what happens.
Rasheeda is controlling and she doesn't know how to talk to her husband. Women like her believe that a marriage is 50/50. Thats a LIE. Its not 50/50. The ONLY thing that is 50/50 in a marriage is respect, compassion and passion...THAT'S IT. Any one of us who have watched L&HH have seen how she talks to her man. What man wanna deal with that??! smh.. but i was that way too, and i was dead wrong. I changed my ways and now there is peace.... i can go on and on, but you ladies should listen to what im say, because its tried & tested and is proven to be true... it works and it brings peace. If your man aint worth the fight, then you need to leave him... but if your gonna stay with him.... just implement what im telling you.
Also, im NOT about to proof read all this so if you run into a typo...im sorry..but i dont have to time... lol but anyway ...good luck ladies!